musings

  All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. Most of us are familiar with this usage, but many dismiss it as something that only applies to school-going children, isn't it?                               As adults, we are so conditioned to stick to a set schedule, be it in everyday tasks or just regular living, but this just stifles our creativity and makes life dull. As the quote goes, " Variety is the spice of life",  it is only when there is an assortment of activities for us to choose from, can we do different hobbies every day. It won't be boring, in fact, it will be stimulating. And since we are the ones ourselves, who have set this array of pursuits to employ ourselves, it is never forced and we have the choice to do whatever we feel like in the moment. Life then becomes this spontaneous, flowing, ebbing river full of life, vigour and vitality.               ...

Abuse is not a foreign term. It has been incorporated into the system since forever that some understand it, some feign unfamiliarity to it while others propagate it like it is embedded into their genetics. These  song s#2 🎶 song #1 kind of resonate.  The majority of the exploitation these days are mostly verbal as there are laws governing physical abuse at present. However, people who suffered child abuse face its aftermath as adults right now. What would be the impact on a 4-year-old if her guardian says to her that she is not safe in her own home when the other caretaker is absent? It's a time when we absorb all of what we come across into our system. That memory being so vivid, gives off  PTSD vibes whenever one thinks of it even as an adult. Science says that until we are 6 years old, we imbibe all of the world into us.           "From birth to (approximately)  age six , your child's brain works in a very different way than an...

This is a topic for discussion at length. As a person with first-hand experience of the subject, I have multitudes of info on the matter. So, where do I start? Let's begin with  the perfect song that embodies this memorandum.   OK, let's see. The core of the matter is that chronically living on auto-pilot renders you desensitized. You want to feel all the emotions of life but however much you try, you just feel unable to and you are deprived of all sensation. This leads to a vicious cycle of misery, diffidence and self-pity that starts to consume us that is wholly self-induced.  Autopilot mode is just a survival tactic so that you can get by in life but you are essentially dead inside. I wonder how people can get so comfortably numb to all the trauma and the baggage they've been hanging on to for so long that it's become a part of themselves. They fail to segregate it as something that has hooked onto them and is a separate entity by itself. The problem begins when you...

I'll set the mood with this song  that popped into my mind.  What are you afraid of? What is stopping you from living the life that you dreamed of as a child? Is it the expectations of others? Or is it all the fears that you've encountered in your life thus far that have been internalised so much that it has shackled you to your crutches? What is holding you back from being comfortable in your own skin? When was the last time that your awkward laughter echoed in the silence of shallow breathers all around you? Was there an event in the recent past where you followed your gut instincts and just let curiosity take ownership of your actions instead of relying on calculated assumptions? Did you ever do anything with reckless abandon and just seize the day; not letting convention decide for you? When was the last time that you weren't afraid to show your emotions as they are? When did you just express your rage and throw caution to the wind or cry like a lost child w...

Does familiarity breed contempt? I aim to explore the intricacies and the mechanics of the thought here. The informality leads one to believe that there's nothing exciting about the person anymore. It is said that to spice up a romance, partners need to engage in activities that either of them are new to just so they can connect again and maintain the bond.   Why do couples forget the reasons they fell in love and got married to the first place? The initial thrill and the mystery of spending their whole lives together makes no sense to them after a few years of  proximity. How does the love fade, procreating contempt and apathy in aggregates beyond measure? This affair can be extrapolated to other realms too, not just a 'holy' matrimony. A bromance, a sisterhood, among colleagues ; any one-to -one association for that matter can suffer such consequences. The rapport in the embryonic phase progresses to egos running high and complexes intertwining in utmost chao...

When faced with dilemmas, how does one take a decision? You list out the pros and cons and try to comprehend if the benefits outweigh the risks.  This song kind of says it all. What is good and bad? I believe that there are no poor choices; only good ones. Nothing is black and white. Everything and everyone are shades of grey with varying tones and saturations. That's the figurative meaning of "Every cloud has a silver lining " or "There's two sides to every coin". Besides, what is labelled good or bad is only the collective opinion of the majority in any society for some order to be established. This constant battle between right and wrong, good and evil, virtue and vice takes a huge toll on the human mind. What we need to realize is just go with the flow, most of the time your intuition will be right but you have to differentiate between the subtle voice suggesting the gut feeling and the mind playing games with you which is another topic of discussion in ...