Abuse

Abuse is not a foreign term. It has been incorporated into the system since forever that some understand it, some feign unfamiliarity to it while others propagate it like it is embedded into their genetics. These songs#2 🎶song#1 kind of resonate. 

The majority of the exploitation these days are mostly verbal as there are laws governing physical abuse at present. However, people who suffered child abuse face its aftermath as adults right now.

What would be the impact on a 4-year-old if her guardian says to her that she is not safe in her own home when the other caretaker is absent? It's a time when we absorb all of what we come across into our system. That memory being so vivid, gives off  PTSD vibes whenever one thinks of it even as an adult. Science says that until we are 6 years old, we imbibe all of the world into us. 

         "From birth to (approximately) age six, your child's brain works in a very different way than an adult's does. At this age, their mind is like a sponge, soaking up huge amounts of information from their environment. They are absorbing everything around them, effortlessly, continuously, and indiscriminately."

Has anyone constantly persuaded you to believe that you have no common sense? Imagine it being said so consistently, ever since your teenage years. That too by your custodians, that it gets to you.  Alongside it, a teenager has so much to navigate- friendship, finding purpose, career prospects and searching for his place in the world.

Add to all of this, gender discrimination which is a plague in the society we live. Working like a slave in the house ever since a child while the man of the house has all of his needs met. Although brought up in the same house, one is essentially born with a silver spoon in his mouth whereas the girl is supposed to clean the spoon after his use.  Propagating misogyny. Expediting the patriarchy by the matriarch in the house. I'm not dismissing the need for hard work or men's emotional trauma or all the generational trauma a man has to endure in his lifetime but doing so at the expense of one's emotional health can lead to dire consequences. Nevertheless, in a society rooted in patriarchy, men have the upper hand.  On top of that, how safe is it for a woman to roam freely in the streets at night even in this age in a male chauvinistic society? The physical abuse and sexual perverts patrolling the streets at night. Predators all around. The weaker sex has to manoeuvre all of this.

Rules and regulations imposed on women may have been formulated for their safety but as the times change and the world at large evolves, why don't people's thinking change?

 Do not let yourself be preyed upon. It's the system that's rigged. How it has conditioned you to victimise yourself is beyond cognition. It is not you. It never was. Find the courage to react to all the trauma you've been handling yourself and silently suffering. Show the abusers that you cannot be silenced. Feel the power that comes from liberating yourself from the glass ceilings and the cages of society. Don't go with the flow; only dead fish do. Do not follow the unthinking majority. Follow your heart. It knows the way.

Be open to everything. Only acceptance. No judgement. Let go of toxic positivity. It's only when you openly exhibit your feelings that they can be dealt with. If they're not released, they return to pester you and haunt you in ways you cannot conceive. You can find the beauty in chaos only when you get to know the darkness up close. These dark emotions are not delinquents. They are there for reasons that need to be addressed. Here is the link to a useful article online on how to do that.

Sometimes all of this abuse is internalized and you begin to doubt yourself and your strengths kind of morph into weaknesses. And as you are unable to differentiate them, self-doubt creeps in to destroy your peace. Express all of the emotions you feel rather than repressing them. That in itself is a huge step in the right direction of taking care of your psychological well-being. After all, prevention is better than cure.

There's this abundance all around you that you can tap into if you just be yourself. Exuberance in all areas of your life; money, love, health. The rest will follow and you will feel content if not anything else. And as you become one with the universe, all your words and worlds start to manifest right before your own eyes. 

Try everything and experience it first-hand before creating an opinion of anything. Feel all the emotion you want to feel to the highest crests and the lowest troughs. Do not let convention rule your life. Live for once in your life. It's the only one you've got. Take off the masks. Show your authentic self to the world. People will judge you no matter what you do. So let them judge you for who you are for real rather than the fake role you play in the world for them.

Your thoughts are valid and need to be met. People may label you as needy or clingy and emotional but the truth is that only one who is starving will be a glutton on having access to the the commodity he was deprived of. To the world, he may appear to be a vagrant but unmet needs incite a  greed in you for the scarcity you've been subjected to. 

Found this very relevant post on this very matter. It's about time we re-evaluate and reform mental health. Stop filing people into cabinets and start addressing their root issues.

Food for thought.