Over-familiarity

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Does familiarity breed contempt? I aim to explore the intricacies and the mechanics of the thought here. The informality leads one to believe that there's nothing exciting about the person anymore. It is said that to spice up a romance, partners need to engage in activities that either of them are new to just so they can connect again and maintain the bond. 

Why do couples forget the reasons they fell in love and got married to the first place? The initial thrill and the mystery of spending their whole lives together makes no sense to them after a few years of  proximity. How does the love fade, procreating contempt and apathy in aggregates beyond measure?

This affair can be extrapolated to other realms too, not just a 'holy' matrimony. A bromance, a sisterhood, among colleagues ; any one-to -one association for that matter can suffer such consequences. The rapport in the embryonic phase progresses to egos running high and complexes intertwining in utmost chaos.

But is it not the familiarity itself in the initial times that made them want to make the decision to stay together? The comfort zone, that feeling of warmth and safety that the relationship offers is haven to a troubled soul. What happens gradually is that people are taken for granted and the acquaintanceship gives way to distance and indifference. Is it not closely related to the saying, Too much of a good thing..?

Sure, you can label it incongruence, disharmony and incompatibility but in the end you are just not willing to work with the person in front of you. You lose your mindfulness and pin character tags on the other person. You lose sight of the actual substance right in front of your eyes. 

I leave the reader to ponder over this issue and whatever resonates with you, take it home and just be aware of it. Awareness in itself is meditation. Follow your heart and the answers to your queries will come to you.

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  1. Shreegovind N AAugust 24, 2023 at 9:11 PM

    Well well well, I see you evolving with each post on your canvas. Write more, do more, be more but in the end just be yourself. Godspeed.♎🦾🤘

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  2. CaptSajAugust 25, 2023 at 6:47 AM

    Expectation from the partner to become what you want is the reason for contempt... If one allows the partner to be what he/she is and accept it, then there will be love and mutual respect.

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    1. Sreelakshmi KoliyotSeptember 10, 2023 at 8:05 AM

      Yes uncle, you are right.
      There is no place for judgement where there is only acceptance.

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